5 Common Fears While Pursuing Or Walking In Purpose And How To Conquer Them

Do you know that sneaky little four letter word (not what you think, lol) that seems to pop up at the most unexpected time, inviting itself in where it isn’t wanted?

I am talking about FEAR. It is the one thing that everyone, no matter who you are, where you live or where you’re from, will encounter somewhere along their journey, especially when you decide to walk in your purpose.

Now that you have sprung forward and entered into a new season, whether literally or figuratively, believe it or not, fear may decide to follow you there too. It is unrelenting!

A former classmate and friend of mine once told me this and it always stuck with me:

We become dangerous when we know who we are and for what purpose we were created.

I would add to that:

We become a potential threat to the kingdom of darkness when we DARE to step out and into our destiny and purpose, despite all odds, and succeed. 

With this in mind, it is important to recognize and identify these fears because it will hinder you from moving forward in your purpose.

I recently surveyed a group of women from mid 20s to late 40s, some married, some single, some with children and others without. Not surprisingly, there were 5 common fears that kept coming up as each woman was either on the journey to pursuing their purpose or actively walking it out. 

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    1. Fear of Inadequacy

  • What this sounds like in your head:

 Am I enough? Do I have what it takes? Do I measure up? I can’t be like so and so. I am not qualified. I don’t have the proper skills, training, certifications, degrees, education…to do this.

  • Result: It leads to a comparison trap, pride and/or low self-esteem. The flip side is you can also begin to put yourself down and fail to see your incredible worth and contribution to this world, just by being here! 
  • Truth: We will never feel fully adequate. The danger of feeling too confident can lead to pride and independence, which simply means, “I don’t need help” or “I don’t need Christ.” Yet, we can do nothing apart from Him. There will always be someone who writes better, sings better, speaks better, leads better, teaches better, coaches better, does something better than you. You MUST know what your unique factor is.  What makes you YOU? Seeing your worth and acknowledging it will lead you to act accordingly.

 

    2. Fear of Failure

  • What this sounds like in your head:

Will I make the choice to persevere and press through? What if I do it wrong? What if I make a mistake? What if I mess up? What if it doesn’t go the way I envisioned or wanted it to go?

  • Result: You become paralyzed. You don’t step out. You don’t try. You continue to live in your comfort zone. You never grow. You never become who you could be.

   

    3. Fear of Rejection

  • What this sounds like in your head:

I can’t put myself out there. My family/friends support me, but what if others don’t? Is anyone else going to affirm me? What if people don’t receive what I have to say or am doing? What if when I ask for help or reach out, they don’t respond or they say ‘No’? I don’t have the courage to reach out to people who are going to help me in pursuing my purpose.

  • Result: You don’t ask for help. You get stuck. Doubt comes in. You can begin to feel inadequate/alone. You don’t try. 
  • Truth: It is human nature to want to be accepted. Author Donald Miller said: “The most common regret of the dying was this: they wish they’d had the courage to live a life true to themselves and not the life others expected of them.” A part of living true to yourself means that everyone isn’t going to accept you. You have to become okay with this. Rejection also teaches us perseverance and how important it is to love and accept you, always. Decide if you are going to live true to yourself no matter what.

     

4. Fear of the Unknown

  • What this sounds like in your head:

I am a planner. I need to know what is going to happen next.  I need to find out all the details. I don’t like to go somewhere or do something I am unfamiliar with.

  • Result: There is a struggle for control and instead of feeling more free to move forward, you get stuck. You become stagnant and/or overly stressed. You become unwilling to try anything new or step outside of your comfort zone and thus, you don’t give yourself a chance to grow.
  • Truth: Fear of the unknown is connected to a desire to control. We can’t control everything. In fact, we only have control over ourselves and our reaction/response. Sometimes the more you try to control a situation the more you begin to feel out of control. Think about the areas of your life where you desire to have freedom most. Take a deep breath and let go.

 

5. Fear of Sacrifice/Surrendering

  • What this sounds like in your head:
  • I simply don’t want to. I don’t want to sacrifice my own time. I don’t want to give up what I want. I may have to leave some people or some habits behind. I am not ready to give up sleep, my “me” time, control, hanging out as much, etc.
  • Result: You never know what or who you could be. You continue down the same comfortable, secure, safe path. You never experience true freedom.
  • Truth: Some of the greatest rewards come from sacrifice and stepping out in pursuit of your purpose. I won’t lie to you. Sacrifice/surrendering is costly, but the benefits and who you become in the process are well worth it. It always ends up being more expensive if you delay and decide to pay later. Don’t think about what you will lose, but what you are gaining. 

 

Don’t live your life in regret. Know that because we are all imperfect, we will make mistakes. We will meet others who do things a little better than us. We will be told ‘No’. We will not know everything or be in control of circumstances. Anything worth having is going to cost us something.

Don’t use any of these fears as an excuse not to try or become more, do more or live more.

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