These were the words I heard right before I was jolted out of my sleep by my annoying alarm early one morning. I rushed to turn my phone alarm off and hurriedly texted these three words to two of my friends who are a part of my dream team.
I knew exactly why those 3 words were on my mind this particular morning, as they had been weighing heavily on my heart after a coaching session I had with a prospective client a few days prior.
This wife and mom of 3 school age children wanted to explore some things that she could do next in her career. She acknowledge the fact that her life for the last 7 years had revolved completely around being a wife and a mom. As we neared the end of our conversation, with nearly every question I asked, she and I became aware of 3 things:
There was a huge gap between “could do” and “wanted to do” as it related to her career.
There was also a disconnect that existed between the person she was as a child–-full of ideas, hopes and dreams–-the popular college student who was often in the spotlight, and her current situation: an anti social recluse who was in need of some direction.
A shift had taken place and she found herself stuck as she kept saying over and over, “I don’t know what happened to me.”
She had stopped dreaming and as a result she had stopped believing in herself.
She stopped seeing herself as the beautiful woman God created her to be, with a myriad of gifts and talents including the ability to write, sing, act and build things from scratch.
She had not even been able to truly celebrate the fact that she had finished writing and publishing a book, something she felt she was supposed to complete years ago.
Her identity had become so lost in raising her children and being a new wife that she somehow forgot about and disconnected herself from those dreams she had as a child, believing that the two couldn’t coexist.
As I began highlighting the many desires and dreams she still had locked up on the inside of her: to serve others, the passion to create things or pull things apart and rebuild them, she still kept rehearsing words and suggestions that were not her own, but had been imposed on her by others.
They were words that had created the gap that now existed between what she could do and what she wanted to do, and it was keeping her stuck. Phrases like:
“Well this person said I could do this.”
“My mother thought I should do this.”
“People said I shouldn’t do this.”
She had allowed the naysayers, the dream busters and the negative Nancys to redirect her life and now she was stuck, 7 years later.
She needed to reconnect to those dreams and to the woman she was becoming in order to tap into those things that she was called to do. Only then would she begin to really live more freely, unapologetically and purposefully.
I didn’t want her to wake up one day when her children were grown and out of the house still trying to figure out what she was supposed to be doing.
Perhaps you may find yourself in a similar situation as my client that I described above.
Here are a few things to begin considering and things you can do to ensure that you never stop dreaming or becoming.
May I encourage you to never stop becoming. Never stop dreaming. Never stop pursuing the things you love, the things that come naturally to you, and the things that make you YOU.
There is a roadmap that has yet to be discovered embedded in your life story.
You owe it to yourself to find out what it is.