The Most Important Thing You Should Know Before You Step Into Your Purpose

To DO is to take some action. 

To BE requires real transformation.

I read this quote as my birthday drew closer and the year was ending. I found myself thinking less about what I wanted or should be doing and more about who I am and the woman I wanted to BE.

Have you ever thought about that?

The type of woman you want to BE?

Who is she?

What does she look like? What kind of woman is she?

The answer to this question is the most important thing you need to know before you step into or continue walking in your purpose in your new year.



In the next 7 days, I challenge you to really sit down and write out the type of woman you want to BE.

What does she look like? (not just physically, but who is she at her core?

What type of person-friend, mother, aunt, wife, sister, employee, servant-is she?

What are her character traits?

What core values govern her life?

Then, I want you to go look in the mirror at that face staring back at you and really look at her. Stay there for a few minutes.

It is so easy to turn our eyes away from the person in the mirror amidst the hustle and bustle of our day to day.

How many times have you stopped to look at her, to really see her, recently?

It’s when we first take the time to focus on the BEing that real change takes place.

It leads to better choices, better action steps, better relationships, a better mindset, a better new year

If we shift our focus away from what we, or maybe others say we should be doing, to the type of person we want to BE/become, we will find more meaning and purpose there. It will then drive our decisions.

It was just 11 years ago that I woke up one morning, looked at myself in the mirror and couldn’t recognize the young woman staring back at me.

I gotta be honest. It was one of the scariest moments of my life. I had been living with her for 25 years at that time, but she was a stranger to me.

Now when I look at the this woman in the mirror, who is several years older, not only do I recognize her, but I really love her and the woman she is still becoming.

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But it was a long, grueling process and thankfully, I am still transforming.

So as you get ready to exit out of one year or even step into a new season, maybe even thinking about your new year or current resolutions and the goals you want to set for yourself, can I encourage you to first focus on and get clear about the woman who you want to BE.

It isn’t so much about the things in this world that you do that will matter the most as much as the person you become in the process.

When you are clear about who she is and wants to BE, when you can really begin to see her, then you will have the greatest impact on the people whose lives you have been called to impact while walking in your purpose.

And I’m not talking about a minor impact, but an eternal impact.

Start with the end in mind. Think about and decide who she is and then work backwards.

For example, if you want to be less of a procrastinator or more kind and loving, ask yourself what will that require you to have to do or to have to change.

Don’t wait until a new year rolls around to start. Begin today. 

Woman of Purpose, I am rooting for you, and for woman in the mirror!




[Just in case you skipped to the end of this post, I am challenging you to use the next 7 days to think about and write down the type of woman you want to BE/Become (see above for the specific questions you want to ask yourself).

Also, because I want to know your specific needs in order to serve you better, would you please take just 3 minutes to complete the LMAC Valued Opinion Survey?

Thank you!

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